While this guide is going to teach you how to find your G Spot, men will learn a lot from reading it too. I’m also going to explain the simple reason why some women have trouble finding it.
So, if you have trouble finding your G Spot, read the entire guide, and you’ll learn how to find it and why you were having trouble finding it in the first place.
What is the G spot? and
The importance of a woman’s clitoris as the source of her greatest sexual pleasure was driven home in the Kinsey studies of the mid-40s, but in 1950, a German obstetrician/gynecologist named Ernst Grafenberg, wrote of a highly sensitive area located inside a woman’s vagina. His article appeared in a German medical journal and received little attention by the general public. This erogenous spot had been ignored by writers of sexuality books for lovers until 1982, when the team of Alice Ladas, Beverly Whipple, and John Perry published their book titled The G Spot and Other Recent Discoveries about Human Sexuality. In honor of Dr. Grafenberg, they named the sensitive area “the Grafenberg spot,” (G Spot) playfully abbreviating this to simply “the G Spot.” This book has never gone out of print and has been translated into 19 foreign languages.
Where Is The G Spot?
The area known as the G Spot is located in and up (if the woman is on her back). It can be stimulated by inserting one (or two fingers if this is comfortable for the woman) and bending them up, pushing up firmly into the top of surface the vaginal canal… up behind her pubic bone. Curling the fingers, as though motioning someone to “come here” then stimulates this area. As many women become aroused, this area begins to swell, increasing from about the size of a pea to perhaps the size of a quarter.
This is an area to explore, but each woman is unique. Some will report pleasurable sensations, some will be indifferent, and some will find it annoying. Since women differ in what they like, a considerate lover will always ask for a woman’s feedback when trying something new. Stimulation can then be adjusted to what feels best to her. When next learning about your partner’s body, the G Spot area might be an area you will want to playfully (and carefully) explore.
Female G-Spot Massage Techniques
Here are some good, basic rules to follow for a successful G-area healing session.
The facilitator should always have the intent to heal and pleasure.
Take the time to “wake up” the area. Massage her thighs, top and bottom, stomach, breasts, and her rear end. Let her relax and become accustomed to your touch. Harmonize your moods. Encourage her to breathe deeply and exhale with sound. Sound will always increase the pleasure. Breathe with her and follow her sounds, making sounds with her. It will help you to “vibrate” with her feelings better, and she will feel additional loving encouragement from you.
When you feel it is time to approach her genitals, ask permission first. This lets her know that you respect her body as hers and that she always has choice. This also gives her encouragement to express her desires…she may not yet be ready. Many women are not accustomed to having their readiness or feelings considered. You want her to WANT YOU to touch her. Begin by touching the outer areas with soft caresses and touches. NO RUBBING at first. The area could go numb before you’ve even begun! Tease her a little, have her wanting more!
When you feel it is time to touch her inner labia, ask permission again. Then, make sure that there is plenty of lubrication. It is best to assume that hers may not be plentiful enough, so either wet your fingers with your saliva or use a lubricant. Never enter the inner lips without lubrication, as it is uncomfortable for her. Continue to tease and tantalize her, only barely flirting with her vaginal opening and her clitoris. Build the anticipation. It makes it more fun and more intense.
Once she is fully aroused, begin by gently, slowly and lovingly feeling the muscles just outside the vaginal entry. Whenever you do this work, begin by moving slowly. Your fingers can sense more, and she can feel your touch at a deeper level. Ask her if she feels any tenderness there. If so, then gently press in on that spot until you feel resistance, or she tells you to stop. You want to gently press on the area so that she is aware of the discomfort, but not yet where she wants to back away. Encourage her to breathe and make sounds along with you while you watch for some form of release. Often this acupressure approach can turn into its own orgasm.
Keep checking with her and she will let you know whether to increase the pressure, or back off. Encourage her to feel all that is coming up for her…. words, thoughts, emotions. The two of you can use the sound making techniques to help her “get into feeling her feelings” even more. You may encounter shivers, groans, growling, tears, hysteria, sobs, orgiastic bliss, or all of them! As her lover, please stay focused on her at all times, maintain eye contact so that she knows you are there for her, and let her feelings fully express!
It is important not to take any of these reactions personally. Just hold the space for her to express. Don’t say anything, except to nurture, support, or encourage her. DON’T TRY TO FIX IT! Just let her feel and be.
Then when she indicates that she feels complete for that area, move to another muscular area and do more of the same.
Eventually, it will be time to enter the vaginal opening. Again ask for permission. It is important that the timing is right for her! If you are using a Crystal Wand, begin by using your fingers up until this moment, or you can start with fingers, and change to the Crystal Wand later (a lot of lovers do this when their fingers get tired and their partner is still going!). Continue with the same procedure on the inner walls of the vagina, slowly working your way up to the G-area.
At the G-area check with your partner to see if the touches you are giving her are pleasurable. Start with the acupressure technique described above. The tissue will begin to swell as the touch becomes more pleasurable. Once it swells, you can experiment with other forms of stimulation…. rubbing side to side (first gently, and then increasing the pressure and pace as her arousal gains momentum)…tapping…. stroking down and up…two fingers, etc. Stay focused, watch her response, and respond to her reaction. Let her lead this dance! It will increase her feelings of safety and her pleasure. Try to stay as connected to her as you can through eye contact, sound and breath! With practice you may be surprised to find yourself feeling her feelings!
I Still Don’t Know How To Find G Spot….Help Me!
The location of the G Spot is the same for all women…however some women have severe difficulty figuring out how to find the G Spot. They might even feel like they were born without one!
Don’t worry! First, I’m going to explain why you can’t find G Spot and then I’ll cover what you can do to locate it.
Why You Can’t Find the G Spot. Hint: It’s Not Your Fault
The reason for many women believing that they can’t find the G Spot is because you need to be aroused to find it. If you are not thoroughly aroused, then you are going to have difficulty finding your G Spot or getting any pleasure from it. For example, if your gynecologist happens to press on or massage your G Spot area during an exam, you’re not going to feel much because you won’t be aroused. But if you are turned on and your partner touches your G Spot, then it will feel incredibly pleasurable.
This is even reported in scientific journals, here’s a quote from Elsevier’s dictionary[1]:
The G-spot is not felt normally during a gynecological exam, because the area must be sexually stimulated in order for it to swell and be palpable; physicians, of course, do not sexually arouse their patients and, therefore, do not typically find the woman’s G-spot.
But why?
Why women Need To Be Aroused – There is an area just above your G Spot called the urethral sponge. Your urethral sponge contains a gland called your Skene’s gland which engorges and fills with fluid as you become aroused [2]. As the Skene’s gland swells and expands more and more, it causes the G Spot to become sensitive and protrude, becoming more prominent in your vagina.
I have indicated the Skene’s gland in light purple below. As you get turned on the Skene’s gland swells with fluid, which causes the G Spot to become more sensitive and makes it more prominent in the vagina.
Sex Positions To Stimulate the G Spot
Now that you’ve learned how to find your G Spot and how to rub and massage it, it’s time to learn some sex positions that you can use to provide maximum stimulation to it during sex.
A quick reminder: It’s important to remember that as the G Spot is only 2-3 inches deep, most guys will need to be quite shallow in vagina. Some guys might even feel like they are about to ‘pop out’ of the vagina a lot of the time when trying to stimulate the G Spot.
G Spot
The G Spot gets it’s name because it’s as if your man’s only mission is to target the G Spot precisely. The most important thing here to focus on is the angle of her body and how deep you take. So play around with how far raise her hips off the ground.
Crab
The Crab is fantastic for hitting the G Spot, especially if women enjoy being on top during sex.
Rear Entry
The Rear Entry position is great if you like doing most of the work to hit the G Spot.
Teaspooning
Teaspooning is so nice if you like being able to wrap your arms around her and hold her close during sex. It’s also a great position to hit your G Spot.
Of course, you can try any number of positions. Some people find that doggie style works well for G-spot stimulation. Others find that being tied up with knees toward their chest does the job.
Don’t Confuse Your G Spot With Your A Spot
Some women don’t know that they have another super sensitive area deeper in their vagina. It’s your A Spot also known as the anterior fornix erogenous zone [3]. Your A Spot is located on the anterior wall of your vagina like your G Spot (that’s the side of your vagina closest to your stomach), but it’s much deeper than your G Spot. Sometimes this can lead to confusion when you are figuring out how to find your G Spot. You can see it’s location in the diagram below.
Stimulating the A Spot also feels incredible, but slightly different to having the G Spot stimulated. Most guys will be able to reach it with their fingers and can use the same techniques as I described above to stimulate it. However, you may find that your fingers aren’t long enough, and you have to use a dildo or something similar to reach it.
So if you discover that women don’t enjoy shallow stimulation (2-3 inches deep) where the G Spot is located but instead prefer it much deeper, then most likely the A Spot is more sensitive than the G Spot. Wikipedia has more great info on the A Spot [4].
When stimulating the G-area during regular lovemaking, it is advisable to be prepared to switch to healing mode, if she moves into deep emotion. It is also wise to integrate many of these techniques into your everyday play, as appropriate, such as asking permission, watching to make sure that there is always plenty of lubrication, staying focused and attentive to your lover, and taking the time to “wake her up” before you plunge into more intense stimulation.
With newbies, sometimes the beginning takes a little time and perseverance, but with patience, the rewards are gaining greater emotional and physical health, greater intimacy, and bigger and better orgasms! I wish you joyous adventures!
How to prepare for sex. Preparation for sex tutorial – dating advice
Pussy Eating Tips for Unforgettable Orgasms – Dating
About Author
