How To Have An Awesome First Date With Someone You Met Online
How to Have a Successful First Date with Someone You Met Online
Let’s be real here, it’s not hard to get a land a date through a dating website if your profile picture is even halfway decent. If you participate in online dating, you’ve probably had TONS of first dates. But do you want quantity or quality in your dating life? If you’re simply going for volume, then you can go ahead and stop reading. But, if you’re feeling like you just want something more from your online dating experiences, keep reading.
Valuable Tips For A First Date After Meeting Online
Here’s how to have an awesome first date with someone you met online. Who knows, you may even just land a second date, a rare phenomenon in the hit it and quit it world of online dating.
1) Keep the Convo Light and Breezy Drinks on the house
On the first date with someone, it’s important to keep the conversation upbeat. Don’t ask questions that are too heavy, or try to probe into someone’s painful past as soon as you meet them. Ask about someone’s hobbies, passions, and things that make them happy to be alive. This will naturally lead into positive, uplifting conversations. It goes both ways, too. Don’t talk about your damage too early on, as it may scare the person off. Keep it fun, and don’t take things to the dark side too soon.
2) Don’t Get Wasted
It can be so confusing. The two of you had a bunch of cocktails, and you’re pretty sure that you had a really fun time even though you don’t remember that much. So why didn’t he ever call you again? Even if the two of you tossed back a few too many, and exchanged a fair amount of awkwardly loud laughs, and sloppy kisses, the other person may not take you seriously enough to want to see you again. Don’t let yourself turn into an online dating equivalent of a one-hit wonder. Keep it (relatively) sober at first so you can form a solid foundation.
3) Be Aware of Your Body Language
You may be saying all the right things, but if your body is doing something weird, then that may be enough to scare someone off for good. Guys, please be aware of how much man space you consume, and don’t take up the whole side of a table by spreading your legs and arms out so far (yes guys, you totally do this.) Ladies, don’t sit there with your arms crossed so tightly in front of your chest, that you’d need a crowbar to pry them apart. Lean forward when the other person talks, make eye contact, and smile. This is what comfortable, confident people do.
4) Keep Your Listening/Talking Ratio at 50/50
Blathering on and on all night about yourself is unattractive, and so is sitting there silent like a statue. On first dates, you must go back to basic social skills 101 sometimes. Don’t plan the next thing you’re going to say as the other person is talking. Naturally you’re going to be nervous, and we know how much you dread those awkward silences, but do your best to be present, and attentive. Ask the other person questions that allow them to expand on what they’re talking about. Don’t try to dominate the conversation, or freeze up and sit there like a mute. You want try and find a happy place in the middle.
5) Run a Criminal Background Check
Although the vast majority of online daters do not have malicious intentions, some of them do. Before you worry about what you’re going to wear, or talk about, or which restaurant to go to, make sure you check the person out with a criminal background check before you even think about meeting up with them in person. Even if you follow all the basic safety protocols (meeting in a public place, etc.) meeting someone in person can still put you at risk. A criminal background check will automatically alert you to any red flags you need to be aware of. You can easily discover if the person you’re about to meet, (and possibly kiss at the end of the night) has a history of domestic abuse, assault, and even sex offenses. What if you discovered that your hot date on Saturday night was actually a rapist?
Knowing the facts before meeting in person could literally save your life.
Good luck, and stay safe out there!
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