5 Relationship Tips For Women
5 relationship advice for women
Men. We love to hate them, but half the time we can’t understand a thing about them. In one heart-stopping moment they can make us laugh or smile, while the next they’re striking our very last nerve. And then, there are those romantic films that portray how love is supposed to be, but in reality never turns out that way. No wonder women are so darn confused. To make love and life a little bit easier on us women, here are five crucial relationship tips:
If a man wants to be with you, nothing will keep him away
Truth is, many women (myself included) have made excuses for our man. And excuses allow men to get away with poor behavior and ultimately give less in a realtionship. What we need to do is stop. Stop trying to change yourself and your man, and accept that the relationship is just not meant to be. No relationship should ever become the be-all and end-all of your life’s existence. That is the first sign that you are in the wrong relationship all together.
People generally don’t change
The question of the decade: can a woman really change a man? I hate to be the barrier of bad news here ladies, but the answer is no. People are who they are and you have to learn to accept it, no matter how much you think you’re in love. Now, that doesn’t mean that if a guy truly cares about you he won’t stop playing excess video games or flirting with other women. Personality traits on the other hand will always remain the same. So, if your man is physically or emotionally abusive or extremely jealous by nature, he will always be that way. So, in this type of situation, you have but two choices: accept your man for who he is or move on. I know, I’m being brutally honest. But seriously, you should have known with whom you were getting involved with from the get-go. So, it’s time to put up or shut up!
Don’t be needy
Men do not respond well to demands (go figure). And they definitely don’t like being told what to do. The moment you start demanding your guy to do something or act a certain way, you’ve already lost his attention. More important, men want to be wanted, not needed. This is a rather difficult concept for women to grasp. For example, a woman who wants her man to text her throughout the day is needy. To her, his texts are a constant reminder of how invested he is in their relationship. Texts may boost her confidence about the relationship overall. On the other hand, a confident woman does not need daily reminders that her man is thinking about her. She already knows that, and is probably too busy living her life to count the number of times that her man texted her on any given day.(1)
Don’t settle—ever!
If you feel like a guy is stringing you along, chances are he is. Move on. Too often women have succumbed to this notion that it’s better to be with a man than alone (trust me, I’ve been there). But that is most definitely and certainly not the case. We live in a generation where, as women, we feel that if we don’t meet our prince charming and get married by age 25, we will somehow end up as a crazy cat lady. For that reason, we settle for guys that less than impress us or treat us poorly. Where are all my independent women at? Not until you can be happy with yourself, and I mean really truly happy with who you are, can you consider being happy with another person.(2)
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Build trust within the relationship
Building trust is crucial for a successful relationship. If you can learn to trust your man, you will have not only a lover, but also a best friend and confident all in one. But, if you cannot trust your man, you have no relationship whatsoever. My thoughts on trust are this: you must trust until trust is broken. Everyone has a past; you cannot hold that against your guy. However, their actions as of late are what you should judge them by. And remember, once trust is lost, it’s one of the hardest things to gain back.