What to wear on a casual first date
What should i wear on a first date
People form a first impression within four seconds of meeting someone! So choosing what to wear on a first date can be a determining factor between sparks that are the starting point of a world wind romance, or you going home chalking up the lack of chemistry to, just another date gone bad. I mean how many times, have you heard, your friends complain “well, I don’t know if there could have been a connection, I couldn’t get past the fact that she/he wore…” Don’t decrease your chances at love because of a fashion faux pas, be smart about what you wear, be location appropriate, and be aware of your personal style.
Personal style is not about the trend of the moment, or the extreme that you show your flare, but simply about having the confidence and self awareness to make the most of what you have. No matter if your style is alternative to conservative a first date isn’t the time to take it to new heights. Don’t whip out the cartoon tie, or designer overload unless you want a specific opinion to be made based on your look. You don’t want what you wear to overpower who you are. Your goal for any first date is to come across comfortable, not only with yourself, but in what you wear.(1)
what to wear on a casual first date female
Don’t overdo the trends. No man wants to be sitting next to some cast off from “Paris Hilton’s my new BFF”. Keep the big sunglasses, designer bag, scarf, Uggs, and leggings combo to a minimum. Though your best friend may think it is fabulous, your date could find it just scary.
Now, I know what you are thinking. “I am fabulous, and if a man doesn’t see that, then he is not the right man” but the thing is, if what you have on overpowers who you are, how can he see that? All he is noticing is the get up. Women wearing too many trends can come across as off putting as a man showing up in a Hawaiian shirt with the slogan “wanna get lei’d.” Loose the disguise, you don’t want a stereotype image to allow someone to dismiss you with the thought, oh, she is “that girl.”(2)
Instead find a comfortable balance which highlights your fashion savvy, but doesn’t divert attention from the real you. If accessories are your thing, try using just one of your fashion pieces, such as a designer tote, or flats to brighten up a classic outfit.
what to wear on a first date men
You are funny, we get it, but do you really have to drill the point home by showing up on a date wearing the “I’m with stupid” t-shirt? Wearing the joke is fine for beers with the boys, or an ice breaker at the bar, but when going on a date it gives off the impression that you think you are one, or that you don’t want someone to take you too seriously. You want to highlight your humorous fun side in what you say, not in what you wear.
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Casual doesn’t have to come across comical, or sloppy. If you are more comfortable in a t-shirt and jeans, there are many ways to make the look polished. In choosing the right jeans, it is safe to opt for one with a dark wash which can have some fading, but you want to avoid the over processed or ripped and torn look. With a darker jean you can select a size appropriate (not skin tight or down to your knees) t-shirt; Try a Polo, or a clean classic black, which you can dress us a bit with a belt that has an interesting buckle.(3)
Remember advertising an exaggerated image of who you are on a first date is a recipe for disaster. It doesn’t matter what you would wear shopping with your girlfriends, or poker night with the guys, on a date your main goal is to dress like you want to be there and not that you are creating any obvious reason for dismissal. Just think, when you hit it off, the person will get to see the joke shirts, and your fashion savvy, but they will also know the person behind the style.
TOP TEN fashions mistakes on a first date:
Men-
- Comedy wardrobe
- Backpacks
- Tattered Jeans
- Over- stylized hair
- Gym clothes
Women-
- Trend overload
- Obvious makeup
- Distracting bright colors
- Micro-mini
- Gym clothes